Wedding Favours – It’s believed they originated in Europe, a long time ago, when aristocrats would send their wedding guests home bearing a bonbonniere. As the name suggests, it is a box designed for fancy bonbons. It was usually made of upscale materials like porcelain or crystal, and it contained sugary confections that symbolised wealth and royalty.
The seriousness and value of the wedding favours have diminished over time, yet the idea behind them stays the same: a material “thank you for attending this important event in our life” to your guests. Some take it more seriously than others, and there’s no exact rule to what these wedding favours should be. People make widely different choices when it comes to them, ranging from homemade things to expensive bottles of liquor or quirky, ethnical themed alternatives. I believe that in order to decide which kind of wedding favours is best suited to you, people should focus more on the second role they have.
Apart from showing gratitude, and in my opinion, the true value they bring to a wedding, is that they are the aftertaste of your special event, the thing your guests will have to remember the wedding by. Think about it, here is a chance to give something to people that they’ll take home and enjoy long after the fireworks have gone up in the sky.
The tricky part is that you have the same kind of wedding favour for all your guests, so the choice must be a generic one. Think of it as music. If someone is a metal fan, that doesn’t mean you’ll play metal songs at your wedding because chances are you’ll make one person happy and the others, not so much. That is the main trap when choosing wedding favours: you think of what some people would like, usually your friends, and you neglect the larger crowd.
The best choices are either things that bring out emotions, like homemade stuff (almost everyone will appreciate you putting in the time and effort into making something for them) or things that bring short-term enjoyment, on a general scale, like a bottle of good wine or a piece of cake (think of the European aristocrats sending sweets to their guests… I mean, everybody loves candy).
Because wedding favours are the last contact, your guests will have with the event they should command some thought be put in choosing them. They won’t make or break an event, but since it’s considered bad manners not to have them, you might as well make sure you nailed this aspect as well. They are the cherry on the cake, and you can have lots of fun deciding what that cherry will look like in the end!