It’s human nature to share both positive and negative experiences. We’re social creatures, and we take a lot of energy from telling our peers what we’re going through, especially if the event in question is something as important as a marriage proposal. Regardless of background, race, sex, political views etc., marriage is a pivotal point in all our lives, something that will, potentially, define our whole future. As with everything in life, the response you’ll get when you announce something is in direct proportion to the importance of your announcement and marriage being such a huge deal… expect some MAJOR energy to come your way.
Below we’re gathered the Top 5 most frequently asked questions when you get engaged. Your family and friends are bound to address a few of these, if not all, so let’s get started!
WHAT DID YOU SAY?!?
This is the single most asked question in response to an engagement announcement. It’s between an impulse and a question actually, as they might already know the answer by the ring on your finger, but because of the enormous shock, people will ask it anyway. Have something funny ready for this one, like “well, I told him I thought we were just friends…” or “does the rock on my finger give you a clue as to what I said?”. A joke will keep the positive vibes going, and that’s great since there’ll be more questions to come.
The second most asked question is “How did he do it?” This one is pure and utter curiosity, and there’s no such thing as too many details. You need to take your time and explain the setting, have your audience picture the mood of that moment, describe everything, even the smell in the air. It will make the people listening really feel your memory, and that’s something incredibly personal to share with your loved ones. Take your time, throw as much detail as you can and savour the whole retelling.
If it’s not going to be a “how?”, then there’s definitely going to be a “where?”. Again, because of the importance of the news, people will impulsively want to know even the smallest of details and the location seems to be high on the curiosity list.
WHEN’S THE WEDDING?
Looking on to the obvious future, the proposal dims in importance and the main event, the wedding, will be the focal point. The usual answer is “we haven’t decided yet”, but if that’s your impulse as well, at least give them an approximate answer, don’t leave them hanging. Say something like “well, we haven’t decided yet exactly when, but early next year it’s what we’d like…”.
ARE YOU PREGNANT?
It might surprise you, but the recently engaged get asked this a lot. It’s one of the reasons to bring marriage into the picture as many people consider it “the right thing to do”. If you are, then the good news just got better! If not… you have to understand that it’s a cultural thing, it’s a social habit, call it whatever you like, just take it as it is and don’t feel offended. It’s actually an excellent chance to proclaim and describe the love you and your partner share.
Five simple questions recently engaged people have to answer, questions that follow the most important of them all “Will you be my wife?”. Bask in the details and prepare yourself to tell the same story over and over again. People that care will feel the need to share this significant moment with you. Curiosity here is often a sign of love, so take your time and build even more memories by retelling the proposal with lots of enthusiasm every time.